Breakups are something many couples experience. Sometimes they are bitter, harsh, painful, and a lot of times, unwanted. Then sometimes it’s the best option. In any case, today we will be talking about dealing with an unwanted breakup. There are basically two situations where a breakup is unwanted.
This is when one person doesn’t agree on the breakup and wants to make things work or when both partners really don’t agree on the breakup but don’t how to make the relationship work. So breakups can be unwanted on one or both accounts. In order to cope up with your breakup, you can join ant of the Best online dating sites out there and look for a new partner.
The breakups that are unwanted by both partners usually happen because there are problems in the relationship that neither knows how to fix and it causes the relationship to end even though they really don’t want to break up. Now the positive side to this situation is that the couple wants to stay together. The bad part is that they think they can’t get over their problems or don’t have a choice but to end them. Here is an example.
You have been with your partner for a while and both of you are really good people. However, at some point, your partner starts using drugs. The love you have for each other is strong but sometimes addictions can/will destroy relationships. In this case, the drug addiction has become so bad that it is destroying the relationship.
Eventually, you get discouraged to where you have to break up even though you love each other. Bad things happen to good people and drug addiction can be one of them. In this case, both want to make it work but just can’t find a way to get over this problem, drug addiction. They’re supposed to be a solution to every problem, so the best thing to do is find that solution.
If both really want to avoid the break-up, they need to try every option they can before “really” ending the relationship. For my example, it would be best if the person not using supported the person with the drug addiction to get help and get clean. One needs to support and the other needs to want to get help and end that problem. Learning what the problems are, finding a solution for the problems, and wanting to stay together can avoid a breakup that neither want.
Now for the other painful unwanted breakup situation, one doesn’t want to break up and doesn’t want to move on. There are lots of times where you see someone breaking up with their partner leaving one of them devastated and hurt. They don’t want to break up and want to make it work. These types of breakups usually end with wanting the ex back.
For example, your partner breaks up with you for whatever reason. You don’t want this. You find it hard to move on and want to try to get him/her back. The problem with these types of breakups is that one wants to make things work and the other has decided to end the relationship. So this leaves them with a few ways to go about the situation.
Give up, leave it alone, let time heal them, move on. Talk to their ex, ask them why, see if they can reason with their ex, and try to make it work. Hope that they want them back. Make them want them back.
Now I know you may be wondering about some of these options, specifically #4. How can I make them want me back? For that question, you need to visit “How to Get Your ex Back“. I personally think that is the best way to get an ex back. The first option may be a good choice if the relationship was bad but if there is hope and it would make the person happy, you don’t have to give up yet. Option two would likely aggravate or annoy the ex and option two is just wishful thinking.
Unwanted breakups are hard to deal with but you have to do what’s best for you. If you both think you can make it work, go for it. If you are left hurt and want to make it work, try the options stated above although you will come out better going with the fourth option in the right way.